Trauma: Healing and Thriving

When someone changes, or self-regulates their emotions, there is a corresponding shift in their heart-rhythm. This shift in turn facilitates high cognitive functions and creates emotional stability and calm. Over time a new baseline of inner reference is established. This baseline is important because it replaces the internal baseline reference in which memory of traumatic events get activated over and over.

Trauma Healing

  Dancing with your Heart and Waltzing with your Trauma

I often hear people say, “I don’t care what they call it, I just want to feel better.”

Through my own experience and observing others I have come to know that human beings are easily traumatized. I have heard trauma referred to as “small t” trauma and “big T” trauma.


“Small t” traumas are the everyday experiences and perceptions of those experiences that lead to a feeling of overwhelming amounts of stress.  These “stressful events” tend to pile up and create more stress and overwhelm that has a long lasting, negative effect on a person. With proper attention small traumas can be integrated and peace and harmony restored.

“Large T” traumas such as PTSD are more difficult.  The traumatic event often results in a devastating intrusion into a desired life of peace and calm and often results in a fragmented sense of life in general.  The memory of the experience is stored in the body, the memory inhabits the body.  Inroads into some trauma experiences are now being made with a gentle approach of learning to self-regulate emotions.  Trauma happens but it does not have to define us or overcome us.

Partnering up with our Heart’s Intelligence

How can self-regulating one’s emotions begin to help folks whose lives have been limited by traumatic experiences, big and small?

 HeartMath Institute Director of Research Rollin McCraty, Ph.D and researcher Maria A. Zayas in their article, Cardiac Coherence, Self-Regulation, Automomic Stability, and Psychosocial Well-Being explain, that it is important to understand that when someone changes, or self-regulates his emotions, there is a corresponding shift in heart rhythm. “This shift in the heart rhythm,” they write, “in turn plays an important role in facilitating higher cognitive functions, creating emotional stability and facilitates states of calm.  Over time, this establishes a new inner-baseline reference, a type of implicit memory that organizes perception, feelings and behavior”.

The first step involves increasing awareness by using a breathing technique that helps us come to recognize our triggers, reactions and our underlying emotions of fear, negative projections, insecurities, worry and so forth.

The next step is learning how to consciously self-regulate and replace the uncomfortable feelings with more neutral or positive attitudes and perceptions.  For example feelings of joy, appreciations, compassion, love, hope and more.

From here we learn to dance with the breathe of our body and the intuition of our heart. As we inhale and exhale, we learn to listen to and feel through our hearts on our way to wellness.

Through research we now know a great deal about the intelligent heart.  Below are a few of the new things we know:

  • The heart sends us emotional and intuitive signals to help govern our lives.
  • The heart directs and aligns many systems in the body so they can function in harmony with each other.
  • The heart has its own independent, complex nervous system know as “the brain in the heart.”
  • The heart’s independent brain and nervous system relay information to and from the brain in the cranium–a two-way communication system between heart and brain.
  • Human beings form an emotional brain long before a rational one, and a beating heart before either.

Let us begin with a simple technique that help you to shift to a more coherent heart rhythm. Let’s get the rhythm.  Let’s dance!

HeartMath Provide Slide 7
Upper red chart shows the chaotic heart rhythm of frustration. Lower charts shows a smoother, more coherent heart rhythm of appreciation.

Heart Focused Breathing

  1. Focus your attention on the area around your heart.
  2. Image your breath coming in and out of the heart area or center of your heart.

Anytime you feel your emotions begin to amp up, take time out and practice these two steps.

I can help you get started listen and breathe with me.


Call me now at 302-678-1160 for a FREE, NO OBLIGATION 15 minute consultation.  You can tell me about what is happening in your life, your concerns and challenges.   As I listen I offer you information that can help you ease your stresses, open your heart and become more comfortable inside yourself.

Let’s dance together with our heart’s intelligence and listen to the gentle whispers of guidance and thrive…..

Heart Hugs,

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Author: June

For over 25 years I have been on a spiritual path that has led me to living a more heart based life. Now I help others become more aware of what they want, connect to their hearts and achieve great joy, health and well-being in their lives

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